So as i might have mentioned before on pinkforum.. me and my bf are looking to get a house this year.. so far its been very difficult.. I feel all the good houses where we want to live in florence are too expensive and t-man is VERY picky when it comes to where it is..Why did i meet a picky italian man! argh! So we are looking and staying with his parents in the meantime because t doesnt want to "waste" money on rent.. Its not crowded.. They have a 3 level house which is more than big. There is a top level with 3 bedrooms and a bathroom, the middle with living room , big bathroom and huge kitchen, and the bottom level is where we are with a living room- dining room- small kitchen and bedroom/bathroom. its our little haven.. or so I thought..
I agreed to this situation with an open mind but lately I have felt kinda "trapped " in my bedroom syndrome.. I work from home on my laptop with occasional meetings in the center so I am mainly at home tapping away with my cuppa tea and sanity ( which is going away slowly) .. and I LOVE t's parents, they enjoy having us there and promised they would stay "out of our way".. so to speak..
During the week when I am in "work mode" I prefer to be alone in the dining room with my laptop, so that I am not in the bedroom all of the time. the problem is, its distracting because t-mans mom is ALWAYS downstairs.. doing something in the kitchen or washing clothes ( which as you know is very loud ) or ironing. I dont know why it has to be downstairs but thats the way it is.. and I often spend 5-6 hours in the bedroom during the day to get the alone time I need to work and focus..
sometimes I wander into the kitchen to find she is using it for sauce, boiling cabbage, deer, humans... because apparently the one upstairs is for eating and not for cooking? like what? There is a HUGE door/window upstairs which can be opened to let cooking smells out and there is a door seperating the kitchen from the living room so i just dont understand why she doesnt just use the better kitchen upstairs..?
I feel in debt to them since I am staying in their house but lately since I have been at home more.. I am just starting to feel that annoyance creep up on me.. sometimes i want to make a snack and bring it in the room and if shes out there i dont want to since I know she doesnt approve of me bringing it in the bedroom..or just hearing the whirr of the washing machine going 1,000 times a day, or just any sounds.. lol..
I have talked it over with t and he says he will talk to her but then I just feel guilty even saying anything.. ya know?
I guess I just get this feeling shes always trying to see what I am doing or if I am really working ( shes a housewife) .. she doesnt really understand online anything or marketing or what I do so .. it kind of falls flat .. for example, today she came downstairs to ask if i had aspirin and I took a look around and told her no but she was peeking around me into the bedroom to see for herself.. inwardly i was like ughhhhhhh.. give it a rest, i didnt "take" the aspirin and hiding it our bedroom!
I really can't say it enough how I do love his parents , its just hard for me since I left home at 17 and am not used to it.. I wish t was more open to renting until we find a place so I could feel more comfortable but I know we need to save money as well.. its def. a conundrum..
anyone else have similar problems? or maybe I am just going crazy/paranoid from spending 99% of time in my bedroom?
I agreed to this situation with an open mind but lately I have felt kinda "trapped " in my bedroom syndrome.. I work from home on my laptop with occasional meetings in the center so I am mainly at home tapping away with my cuppa tea and sanity ( which is going away slowly) .. and I LOVE t's parents, they enjoy having us there and promised they would stay "out of our way".. so to speak..
During the week when I am in "work mode" I prefer to be alone in the dining room with my laptop, so that I am not in the bedroom all of the time. the problem is, its distracting because t-mans mom is ALWAYS downstairs.. doing something in the kitchen or washing clothes ( which as you know is very loud ) or ironing. I dont know why it has to be downstairs but thats the way it is.. and I often spend 5-6 hours in the bedroom during the day to get the alone time I need to work and focus..
sometimes I wander into the kitchen to find she is using it for sauce, boiling cabbage, deer, humans... because apparently the one upstairs is for eating and not for cooking? like what? There is a HUGE door/window upstairs which can be opened to let cooking smells out and there is a door seperating the kitchen from the living room so i just dont understand why she doesnt just use the better kitchen upstairs..?
I feel in debt to them since I am staying in their house but lately since I have been at home more.. I am just starting to feel that annoyance creep up on me.. sometimes i want to make a snack and bring it in the room and if shes out there i dont want to since I know she doesnt approve of me bringing it in the bedroom..or just hearing the whirr of the washing machine going 1,000 times a day, or just any sounds.. lol..
I have talked it over with t and he says he will talk to her but then I just feel guilty even saying anything.. ya know?
I guess I just get this feeling shes always trying to see what I am doing or if I am really working ( shes a housewife) .. she doesnt really understand online anything or marketing or what I do so .. it kind of falls flat .. for example, today she came downstairs to ask if i had aspirin and I took a look around and told her no but she was peeking around me into the bedroom to see for herself.. inwardly i was like ughhhhhhh.. give it a rest, i didnt "take" the aspirin and hiding it our bedroom!
I really can't say it enough how I do love his parents , its just hard for me since I left home at 17 and am not used to it.. I wish t was more open to renting until we find a place so I could feel more comfortable but I know we need to save money as well.. its def. a conundrum..
anyone else have similar problems? or maybe I am just going crazy/paranoid from spending 99% of time in my bedroom?